Do trust Nocturnus on this one, man
Sorry to say this wishing, but you lost me the moment you said things like:
"It doesn't matter what kind of retarded stuff come out of your mouth at the moment you're talking with the girl/woman you want as long as you have high self esteem"
"This should take place in a period of no more than a month (unless she's extremely shy), if not she'll friendzone you"
I don't know, man...
If you're smooth enough, she'll be the one coming after you. I usually consider hunting/relationship analogies to be rather rude, nonetheless, I often find that it's true that the good hunter picks the perfect spot and waits for the prey.
Try to act naturally curious, don't rush things, and try to create context for her to feel comfortable.
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